The joy of motherhood...
Motherhood is one of the most cherished, happy and beautiful moments in a woman’s life. Needless to say, a mother feels proud and joyful when she gives birth to her little one and the whole family is happy about this great event.
Sometimes, due to some reason or the other, a woman is unable to bear a child. The reason may be due to the hormonal imbalance in a couple. But science and technology has advanced well today and doctors are able to help couples through various measures like IVF (in vitro fertilization or test tube baby), etc. and the couples become happy when they too are blessed with an offspring of their own.
Recently, (on July 28th) a lady delivered a boy in Palani in the IVF method. She is very happy and proud and is thankful to her Doctor too. Fair enough.
But I wonder if it is worth all the pain, mental agony and money they might have spent on this. I feel so because the lady is 60 years old and her husband is 66 years and they have spent all their lives (40 years to be precise) in search of medical help, astrologers, country medicine experts etc. to have their own offspring.
The lady says that she used to feel bad when she was questioned how many children she had and that after some time she avoided going in public. One should not feel bad for not being able to give birth.
It is beyond our control and seeking necessary medical help is indeed a good one. At the same time, one should also be practical. Giving birth at the age of 60 may be a medical achievement or wonder. But just think of the little one. How long will he be getting the good attention of his parents? Already they are in their sixties. When the boy is ten, his mother and father will be seventy and seventy-six respectively.
These days, people find it difficult to take care of their parents when they grow old and at times even leave them in old age homes. So, considering the age of the parents and the little boy, won’t it be practically difficult for both to take care of each other?
Childless couples who are unsuccessful in their search for medical or clinical remedy for their problem should after some time think of adoption instead of prolonging their search till they reach the age of 50s and 60s.
Adoption will give joy to them while they bring up the baby from birth even when they are also young enough and healthy and they will be able to enjoy every stage of the child’s growth. It will also bring meaning to their lives as they are giving affection and joy and happiness to an otherwise orphaned kid.
In our Indian society, still there are some people who look down upon couples who do not have children and try to hurt them emotionally by their adverse comments. This attitude must change and people need to be more sensitive while talking about this to such couples.
Childless couples also should be bold enough and take things in a lighter manner without getting afraid of being commented upon for no fault of theirs. They need to think practically and take decisions together to solve this problem soon either by medical help or adoption soon so that they enjoy their married lives as parents too…
Source: My prize winning thread in DIGITAL BHOOMI (http://www.digitalbhoomi.in/forums/showthread.php?t=28008&referrerid=1481)
__________________Sometimes, due to some reason or the other, a woman is unable to bear a child. The reason may be due to the hormonal imbalance in a couple. But science and technology has advanced well today and doctors are able to help couples through various measures like IVF (in vitro fertilization or test tube baby), etc. and the couples become happy when they too are blessed with an offspring of their own.
Recently, (on July 28th) a lady delivered a boy in Palani in the IVF method. She is very happy and proud and is thankful to her Doctor too. Fair enough.
But I wonder if it is worth all the pain, mental agony and money they might have spent on this. I feel so because the lady is 60 years old and her husband is 66 years and they have spent all their lives (40 years to be precise) in search of medical help, astrologers, country medicine experts etc. to have their own offspring.
The lady says that she used to feel bad when she was questioned how many children she had and that after some time she avoided going in public. One should not feel bad for not being able to give birth.
It is beyond our control and seeking necessary medical help is indeed a good one. At the same time, one should also be practical. Giving birth at the age of 60 may be a medical achievement or wonder. But just think of the little one. How long will he be getting the good attention of his parents? Already they are in their sixties. When the boy is ten, his mother and father will be seventy and seventy-six respectively.
These days, people find it difficult to take care of their parents when they grow old and at times even leave them in old age homes. So, considering the age of the parents and the little boy, won’t it be practically difficult for both to take care of each other?
Childless couples who are unsuccessful in their search for medical or clinical remedy for their problem should after some time think of adoption instead of prolonging their search till they reach the age of 50s and 60s.
Adoption will give joy to them while they bring up the baby from birth even when they are also young enough and healthy and they will be able to enjoy every stage of the child’s growth. It will also bring meaning to their lives as they are giving affection and joy and happiness to an otherwise orphaned kid.
In our Indian society, still there are some people who look down upon couples who do not have children and try to hurt them emotionally by their adverse comments. This attitude must change and people need to be more sensitive while talking about this to such couples.
Childless couples also should be bold enough and take things in a lighter manner without getting afraid of being commented upon for no fault of theirs. They need to think practically and take decisions together to solve this problem soon either by medical help or adoption soon so that they enjoy their married lives as parents too…
Source: My prize winning thread in DIGITAL BHOOMI (http://www.digitalbhoomi.in/forums/showthread.php?t=28008&referrerid=1481)
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